wow, that was powerfully beautiful. Because I am in a good marriage this is very meaningful. In the bad marriage-this would have pained me quite a bit because this is exactly what I was striving for but wasn't happening. LOvE the tree, I mean that is a great picture, and would make a beautiful anniversary gift, with your essay attached of course... look at you such a famous author! You deserve it!
You have to know that I love this one. You and Dave really do have such a great marriage! The thing that really gets to me though is that from the time you were 16 years old, you could never imagine being with anyone else! I don't think there can be many couples that started at such young ages that could have lasted. I really do think you have defined the perfect marriage and I salute you! .....and Dave.
Of course, no marriage is perfect (certainly not ours!), and I hope I didn't give that impression with this essay. I was just trying to say that if a couple can manage to grow through the hard times, and to always lean back toward each other every time life and circumstances push them apart, in the end they will have created something pretty great for themselves.
Having said that...Here is the disclaimer:
While shared history is a wonderful thing to have, making a marriage work well over time requires TWO willing, committed, and basically well-intentioned partners. Sadly, that isn't always the situation, as all of us can and have seen.
This is one reason why I tell young people not to hurry into marriage on a romantic whim. It pays to spend ample time finding out what makes a potential marriage partner tick.
I particularly loved the 10 year time frames. At first it's upsetting to realize your true love is less than perfect. As I've grown older and hopefully wiser, I've seen that these imperfections (and I have plenty of my own!) can help us blend and meld together in a most beautiful way. Where one's branch sags, the other one's branch holds it up. We are each others' support and source of joy. Thanks for linking to your article - it was beautiful and started my morning off right!
I did. It so great seeing you over there! Interesting, reflective article you wrote. I left my comment there.
ReplyDeleteThat was such a beautiful tribute to your marriage. You are a great example.
ReplyDeleteI hope to be like you someday.
wow, that was powerfully beautiful. Because I am in a good marriage this is very meaningful. In the bad marriage-this would have pained me quite a bit because this is exactly what I was striving for but wasn't happening. LOvE the tree, I mean that is a great picture, and would make a beautiful anniversary gift, with your essay attached of course... look at you such a famous author! You deserve it!
ReplyDeleteYou have to know that I love this one. You and Dave really do have such a great marriage! The thing that really gets to me though is that from the time you were 16 years old, you could never imagine being with anyone else! I don't think there can be many couples that started at such young ages that could have lasted. I really do think you have defined the perfect marriage and I salute you! .....and Dave.
ReplyDeleteOf course, no marriage is perfect (certainly not ours!), and I hope I didn't give that impression with this essay. I was just trying to say that if a couple can manage to grow through the hard times, and to always lean back toward each other every time life and circumstances push them apart, in the end they will have created something pretty great for themselves.
ReplyDeleteHaving said that...Here is the disclaimer:
While shared history is a wonderful thing to have, making a marriage work well over time requires TWO willing, committed, and basically well-intentioned partners. Sadly, that isn't always the situation, as all of us can and have seen.
This is one reason why I tell young people not to hurry into marriage on a romantic whim. It pays to spend ample time finding out what makes a potential marriage partner tick.
I loved that picture and poem from before, and now the article finishes it. You truly are amazing- and a lucky girl to have a good and happy marriage.
ReplyDeleteI particularly loved the 10 year time frames. At first it's upsetting to realize your true love is less than perfect. As I've grown older and hopefully wiser, I've seen that these imperfections (and I have plenty of my own!) can help us blend and meld together in a most beautiful way. Where one's branch sags, the other one's branch holds it up. We are each others' support and source of joy. Thanks for linking to your article - it was beautiful and started my morning off right!
ReplyDeleteLove the article, Sue. (Very thankful for a marriage that is pretty perfectly imperfect...most of the time, anyway!)
ReplyDeleteI like that, Nik. "Perfectly imperfect."
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