tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6072583027504108914.post284503291949893507..comments2023-10-28T00:18:13.590-07:00Comments on Sue's News, Views 'n Muse: Thoughts on ParentingSusan Andersonhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/16049586085703324088noreply@blogger.comBlogger14125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6072583027504108914.post-42815440292699988142011-05-28T15:32:50.073-07:002011-05-28T15:32:50.073-07:00Thanks for your input. I REALLY needed it today. ...Thanks for your input. I REALLY needed it today. I'm tired and grumpy and can't seem to get ANYTHING done, except TRY to keep the baby from eating the sand in the sand box and enough water in the kids to keep them from dehydrating and I feel like I've gone round and round in circles and been TOTALLY unproductive, which is when I usually lose it and get grumpy and just want to run away for a nice LONG walk by myself. It's hard to teach kids the right way to react to pressure and lost expectations for a Saturday I thought was going to be productive when I am a bad example of it in it's most simplest form. Not sure why I let LITTLE things not getting done make me grumpy. But your advice here was perfect timing...perfect reminder...perfect moment to stop and BREATHE. Sorry I rambled. I hope you have the most SUPERB birthday with your family. You truly are a wonderful person and I'm sure you will be showered with love all around today!!! Happy Birthday, Sue!!! :) {HUGS}Tonyahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06239079132342501762noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6072583027504108914.post-18241473542295679922011-05-28T02:14:14.611-07:002011-05-28T02:14:14.611-07:00I'm so grateful for your perspective. I'm ...I'm so grateful for your perspective. I'm right at that point of parenting where I realize that there are things I simply can't go back and do better, and as they are growing up so fast, it's hard not to feel a sort of frenzied, panicked feeling of - am I doing enough?<br /><br />But I *DO* think they know they are loved, and I do believe they know that God is real (and that we believe that), and so maybe that isn't such a bad anchor for them to enter the teen years with.<br /><br />I just wish sometimes that parenthood wasn't so much about my own growth - I feel like they deserve to have someone raise them who has it all figured out! But then I remind myself that part of the plan is to be raised by imperfect parents. <br /><br />I love reading about your family. Thanks.Mormon Women: Who We Arehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02479667028999828222noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6072583027504108914.post-44448948150954414692011-05-26T08:22:19.909-07:002011-05-26T08:22:19.909-07:00"...for it is the act of getting up that inst..."...for it is the act of getting up that instills confidence and self esteem."<br /><br />I didn't get this when I was a new parent. I thought the more good experiences and successes they have, the more self esteem they would have. It took me years to understand that self esteem comes from the 'getting up' after they fall.Grandma Honeyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09587160523698527979noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6072583027504108914.post-43473546499093220942011-05-26T06:48:45.584-07:002011-05-26T06:48:45.584-07:00Great advice. I think it is essential for a child ...Great advice. I think it is essential for a child to understand who he truly is (and where he comes from) before he can understand where he is going--and how he can get there. I love your comment about creating a sense of family as well. I was reading some books on parenting for a class I took several years ago and one of the things stressed there (non-religious author) was that children who can feel apart of something (as in family) and that they have a voice in that something are much less likely to get into trouble, and much more likely to have self esteem.<br /><br />And I certainly understand the comfort that comes from knowing that God loves our children more than we do--and will always keep a watchful eye over those we love. <br /><br />Thanks for your words of advice.Joy For Your Journeyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15377226137595067767noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6072583027504108914.post-19463479561654671342011-05-26T03:06:11.351-07:002011-05-26T03:06:11.351-07:00That standing ovation you hear was started by me, ...That standing ovation you hear was started by me, Sue. I think young parents are afraid to accept the fact that a parent can do a great job...and that 'force to be reckoned with' could rob a bank or shoot someone or worse.<br /><br />When I read the sentence about which parenting skills....the first thing I thought of was prayer.People Who Know Me Would Say:https://www.blogger.com/profile/04621641188403948733noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6072583027504108914.post-42523315231100890992011-05-25T23:03:03.251-07:002011-05-25T23:03:03.251-07:00These are truly words of wisdom, Sue, and I totall...These are truly words of wisdom, Sue, and I totally agree with everything you have said. Our actions are so important, because little ones tend to want to be like Mommy and Daddy. <br /><br />I know what a great influence my mom was to me and I have always tried to emulate her as much as I possibly could. She was a great woman who overcame a lot in her life and at the end became very comfortable with who she was. I know I can never be as strong a person as she was, but when the chips are down, I find that strenth comes from deep down inside of me and I can usually manage to overcome. Living can be such a struggle at times.<br /><br />Just like us, our children have no real idea what life is all about until they get out on their own and sad it is if they haven't had the good parenting and hopefully the skills to face life head on. You have been a great Mom, Sue, and all of your children love and appreciate you and what you have taught them by setting such a good example for them.Darlenehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16797132860053426517noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6072583027504108914.post-60751119584313521202011-05-25T19:25:05.401-07:002011-05-25T19:25:05.401-07:00i have had a devil of a time commenting on your si...i have had a devil of a time commenting on your site....<br /><br />smiles. love this..i think the best thing we can do for our kids is love them, hold them accountable and pray for them...and guide them as we go...Brian Millerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00722940075884718007noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6072583027504108914.post-13038955881881373272011-05-25T17:51:20.196-07:002011-05-25T17:51:20.196-07:00What a great post. You Rock!!What a great post. You Rock!!Karenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13371527018787974580noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6072583027504108914.post-19321135662413128182011-05-25T16:30:03.919-07:002011-05-25T16:30:03.919-07:00Sue, of all the things I have read here, this is p...Sue, of all the things I have read here, this is probably my favorite. And that is saying something. This is an important article for any mom out there to read. <br /><br />Thank you for your wisdom. One of the reasons I have always been attracted to your blog is that you are the kind of person that I would like to be and so I can see how you have raised such fine children.Carolinehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04953764061091454844noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6072583027504108914.post-60507076957092274142011-05-25T16:25:32.746-07:002011-05-25T16:25:32.746-07:00Beautiful thoughts! And my children continually a...Beautiful thoughts! And my children continually amaze me too. I am SO excited to see how their children turn out. Example really is the best teacher.Beckyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09624351403333754381noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6072583027504108914.post-89078832440227158622011-05-25T15:41:50.578-07:002011-05-25T15:41:50.578-07:00Oh, Sue. This is profound and intimidating all at ...Oh, Sue. This is profound and intimidating all at once. I guess as long as my kids see me trying and repenting and trying again. AS long as they can know...it's NEVER to late. EVER!!Stefhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14735618188851876515noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6072583027504108914.post-38594725025624828442011-05-25T13:44:30.842-07:002011-05-25T13:44:30.842-07:00Thanks, Sue. I think I was unsuccessful in voicin...Thanks, Sue. I think I was unsuccessful in voicing what I really felt this time. You did it perfectly.jenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01313127576303289593noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6072583027504108914.post-16986833209087130102011-05-25T12:37:45.196-07:002011-05-25T12:37:45.196-07:00well-put! Try as I may (by yelling!) my words will...well-put! Try as I may (by yelling!) my words will never speak louder than my actions do to my children! :)Jocelyn Christensenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10342635172904848811noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6072583027504108914.post-48861453027263953052011-05-25T11:05:56.415-07:002011-05-25T11:05:56.415-07:00Beautiful Sue! And I can see from how close your ...Beautiful Sue! And I can see from how close your family is, and all they've accomplished (and are still accomplishing) that the lessons you've taught have been good and valuable.karenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16313237142656662148noreply@blogger.com